Stop Trying to Dress Like ‘Her’
How comparing your style to someone else’s is sabotaging your confidence (and what to do instead) according to a wardrobe stylist
It happens all the time. You’re scrolling Instagram or TikTok, see her — the woman with the seemingly perfect wardrobe, who always looks effortlessly cool. Suddenly, your own closet feels inadequate.
So what do you do?
You add what she’s wearing to your cart, hoping it’ll give you her vibe.
And more often than not?
It doesn’t.
Because style isn’t about dressing like her. It’s about dressing like you.
Why Copying Someone Else’s Style Rarely Works
When you try to emulate someone else’s look, you’re missing the most important ingredients:
Your lifestyle
Your body type and proportions
Your personality
That blazer or trending pair of jeans might look incredible on someone else, but if it doesn’t align with your life (or make you feel like yourself), it’s going to sit in your closet unworn — yet another reminder that you’re not her.
How to Stop the Comparison Cycle
Follow people that look like you!
Unfollow or mute accounts that make you feel like your style isn’t enough. Instead, follow people with a diverse range of body types and aesthetics — it’ll help broaden your idea of what style can look like.
Get laser clear on YOUR style
What colors do you naturally gravitate toward? What fabrics feel best on your skin? Which outfits have you worn that made you feel unstoppable? Start taking notes. The more you understand your preferences, the easier it is to build a wardrobe that feels authentic.
Shop with intention
Before buying any new pieces work through the below checklist. If you have to convince yourself of any, the answer is probably a “no.”
The Confidence Shift
The real reason this matters? Because confidence starts in your closet. If you’re dressing to become someone else, it’s always going to fall flat. But when you dress in a way that feels true to you — your lifestyle, your body, your personality — you’ll exude a quiet kind of confidence that no “it-girl” outfit can replicate.
Let’s make it personal.
What’s one piece in your closet that feels so you every time you wear it? Drop it in the comments. I’d love to see how your style shows up when you’re being unapologetically yourself.
xoxo,
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